We think that manipulative people are largely far away- we encountered them in RL, we just don't think of them as being on the net. Whether on the net or in RL, we need to know how they operate. Remember your N- how reasonable they seem to other people while you are tearing your hair out? That is narcissism in action- that is a teflon N/psychopath. Remember how they plagiarise emotion, your character, your identity, anything that will make them look great?
Often we are conned by narcissism in action ; as with the Ns we know, it takes time for our guts to warn us about others; if our guts say "something doesn't feel right" about something or someone we have come to trust, that someone just seems too good to be true, we need to heed that warning! Ns always wear teflon in public; you will know them by their constant and consistent seeding of doubt and gossip, usually in private, when a target does them "dirt". Like all Ns, the disordered and the disturbed, it is predictable that they will ascribe mental illness/disorder to said targets.~Invicta
RECOGNIZING NARCISSISM IN ACTION
When the narcissistic defense is operating in an interpersonal or group setting, the grandiose part does not show its face in public. In public it presents a front of patience, congeniality, and confident reasonableness. However, beneath the surface it is supremely smug and superior. It is confident it can deceive the "fools" or their objective it is committed to blocking, while maintaining its own control and dominance over either the rules, and/or the flow of events.
Bruce Gregory, Ph.D. © 1999
These manipulators are rarely original thinkers.
Plagiarists and thieves, they seldom credit
the true originators of ideas,
often co-opting authorship…. Tobias&Lalich
For a behavioural description, go here: NarcissismInAction:BehaviourFor Real Life examples, go here: Narcissism and Grandiosity